You know, there comes a time in one's life, you have to either move on with your living, or be stuck in a rut. In love and relationships....how does one approach this issue? If you're in a relationship that is going no where fast, should you cut your losses and move on despite your true feelings? What about friendships? Should you cut and run even when it's not you that is the problem?

After almost 5 years of marriage, I have finally decided what to do in my relationship. Remember the good times, learn from the past mistakes and move on to another goal. Standing still has never been one of my stronger suits to be sure. The only problem I face now is, getting past the emotions of it all and simply moving on. It's hard though. To put time and effort into a relationship and then just let it go. Even though it's best, or seems the best for both involved.

I wonder if other males have this issue? I know I am a little jaded from my past experience, but is it fair to love someone even after being burned by them over and over? I have heard advice from friends that mean well, advice from columns that try to help fix those things that are not right in marriages. Heck, Dr. Phil seems to have a bit of a hold on what is really going on. But, even after the hurt has passed, the anger diminished, the bitterness dispelled, I can't seem to shake the love of this person! Why can't I just cut her out of my life completely and just move on? Is it because I have been blinded in love for so long, that I am now emotionally stunted? Even as I try to move along at my single person pace, I still seem to have thoughts and feelings for the person I married. Can I heal without closure or do I have to follow through completely with divorce? Even then, will I move forward or continue making the same mistakes I made previously? I hope I can move out of this funk, because I hate being stopped in my tracks and waiting for another to make her decision.

Even as I talk about this issue on here, I have many others that seek my company, as a man. What about those people? Am I just seeing the grass on another side of the fence? Or am I just awake to the possibilities? Learn from mistakes, grow into the present by remembering the past, use caution in new relationships, don't keep yourself closed off to loving again, don't be so naive.....the list can be endless. How is a person supposed to remember all of the advice on love? We don't. Sometimes we have to learn by doing again, bumping our heads a little bit until we really understand the lesson we are supposed to learn from.

I hope the bumping of my head doesn't keep happening, as the lumps are getting larger! LOL!

Well, that's my rant for the day.

More later.

Peace.